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My Over Protective Mom Is Overprotective, And Doesn’t Want Me To Be Engaged To My Girl. What Do I Do?


Here’s the situation. I am a 25 year old man, and I’m attending college at a university in Idaho. I have a summer job to help pay for college and housing and such, which causes me to come and live at home for a brief period. With all of this, I am wanting to get engaged to my girlfriend of 5 1/2 years, but mom does not like her family, she does not like her situation. See, my girlfriend is 22 years old, works two jobs, and attends community college here in my hometown. She also lives at home right now. (Basically every time I go up to school for 8 months at a time, she and I are separated.) We’ve been accustomed to the long-distance thing for a period of time, then we’re home seeing each other again in person. I must tell you all now that she is the first girl I have ever been with. I am the first guy she has ever been with. I dated a small amount (can count on one hand) before I met her, but once I met her, we fell in love, and it’s been steady and constant. For 5 1/2 years. Straight. Almost six!
Anyway, I am a deeply spiritual man, and my girlfriend is a deeply spiritual woman. Heck, she even joined the church with which I’m affiliated because she knew it would bring her great peace and joy, and as far as I can see, it has. I won’t get into details–for I am sharing something deeply personal–but basically, I had an experience where I was praying and received spiritual witness from God, like a confirmation of sorts that really boosted my already confident belief in mine and her solidarity as a couple is sure. This just solidified it. I mean, I know God is behind the two of us. My mom really tried to cheapen that when I told her about it by saying that I have been blinded by love, and had not explored my options much, and that I have been too comfortable with this young lady to not pull out of my comfort zone. I argued that I had explored enough, and had been with my gf long enough to really get to know her, as well as saying that I was only comfortable with that comfort that two in love ought to be comfortable with. She didn’t buy it–none of it–and has, from that day forward, sought to control and seek to put forbearance upon my relationship; striving to control how, when, and how long I am in contact with this girl. She’s even put a limit on how many dates I go on with her! Mom’s reasoning? Since I have been emotionally connected, the physical connection will begin. And it could get a little too physical, was the bulk of her wording. Of course, my gf and I are chaste, and we’re Christian, so we don’t do anything sexual between us. We’re gonna wait til marriage. (Besides, why open the Christmas present before Christmas? :D) Anyway, we’re clean, and we have bounds around each other, and we stay lovingly inside of them! I love this young woman with all of my heart and soul, and she certainly loves me just the same, if not more! She amazes me, she dazzles me, and she fills me with great gratitude to God for blessing me with such an angel! But anyway, you all aren’t here to hear that, you’re hear to help me, give me advice, or just reassure me to go forward! Whatever you will say, say it. Thank you all!
God bless!

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