I’ll try and make this short. I’ve been friends with this girl since middle school, we’re 22 now. Now it’s gotten to the point where I can no longer handle it anymore. She’s been so mean, and so negative about my accomplishments for like the last few years, while I’ve been supportive for her. Here are some examples.
-Last year, I graduated Phi Theta Kappa, from a tech college with a degree in dental assisting, to me it was a huge accomplishment to have such a high GPA in a program that had extreme rigor and an altered grading scale.
-I’m going to school to be a dentist, and I’m doing my undergrad right now, where I got into an all women’s university that is one of the best schools in the midwest, she kept calling me a lesbian, saying really horrible things to me..I don’t have problems with lesbians but I’m not one, I went to this school because it’s a great school.
-I wrote two papers this semester that have been published, I didn’t know this was going to happen, my English professor suggested I get them published, but still was so excited, and she told me everything she is doing is so much more important (I’m a Pre-Dentistry and Biology major, Chemistry and English minor, I work so hard, while her major is early childhood education, and it’s apparently harder than a science major)
-Lastly, I’ve recently lost 20lbs on my own, she joined weight watchers, which is continuously rubbed in my face, and she’s lost less weight than me but I have to continue to show her praise when I get no recognition.
I’m really sick of being put down for things that I accomplish. I earn my success and have found my niche, I want her to be happy for me, especially with all the support I give her. We’ve been friends for so long, but now I’m just miserable. I haven’t responded to any of her text messages recently because I’m not sure what to do. I’ve tried on numerous occasions to talk to her, and she blows up in my face and calls me a bad friend. Help please..I don’t know how to stop being friends with her..
Sorry this is long, please no rude comments.
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Posted on April 22, 2012.
don’t be scared
dry your eyes never let up. forgive but don’t forget, girl keep your head up.
Try to give each other some time off maybe that will make her realize what she did wrong
Have you tried talking to Her about it ? Because it sounds to me like she’s just jealous because it sounds like your way more independent and mature than she is and it sounds like you don’t like being mean but maybe she needs to be put in her place and told off one good time and if she continues what she’s doing than don’t hang out with her anymore because she’s just dragging you down
Don’t let anyone ever make you feel that way. You are giving her exactly what she wants. Which is for you to be miserable. She wants to feel like she’s better than you probably because she’s jealous of you. Those are truly great amazing things that you’ve accomplished and you should be so incredibly proud of yourself. I know that this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but she isn’t being a very good friend to you and no one should ever have a someone like that in their lives. You need to call it quits on the friendship thing. She should be so incredibly proud of everything you’ve done for yourself and instead she’s making you miserable. That’s not a friend. You need to simply and maturely tell her that you don’t appreciate what she’s been doing and you no longer want to be friends. Delete her number and if she continues to bother you, block it. I think that those are wonderful things you’ve done for yourself and I hope you continue to do great things. I hope I helped.
She doesn’t seem like a very good friend if she puts you down like that. You need friends that will support you and encourage you. And she might even be a little jealous of you. Just dont reply to her texts. Then you’ll drift apart. you’ll feel like a huge weight has been lifted trust me.
Tell her how you feel say that you feel she’s being mean to you shes putting u down and don’t let her do that ur stronger than her maybe you could change ur number, unfriend her, block her, move away like maybe a few miles or blocks if u can’t stand it anymore she’s probably jealous if u cuz she knows that she can’t do Wat u just did u should feel special for Wat u did!!! U hav a high gpa ur gonna be a dentist it has a good pay and guesss what she’s not going to have the great opportunity that u have CONGRATS!!!!
Hi Katie! I have been in this promble before 3 times..First it happen to someone I met in preschool,and between those years we got in HUGE fights. The thing I did was I kept my patience in me and I told my parents.Luckily my parents knew her parents so she was in major trouble. So for this promise I told my parents,so maybe you should too.
The second time it happen was when I was in 3rd grade.So the girl met me,and she was nice,BUT when it came to 4th grade..SHE CHANGED EVERYTHING.I was so surprised I didnt even know her! And by the 9th day of the school year she asked me why I haven’t talked to her lately…I said nothing back.She got furious.She pushed me down on the ground.Kicked me,and shouted at my face.I kept my sprit in myself.So in this problem I kept my mouth shut..I don’t know if you want to do this.
Third time this has happen.So 5th grade it was.We got along.Then 4 months pasted.She acted as if she was the queen of the world.I missed her old self.I ask her if we wouldn’t be best friends anymore.
Maybe you should do the same.
I really hope this helps..Sorry it’s so long..First I think I should tell you something.I am only 11 years old..So…I’m very very very sorry if none of this advice works, if you used any of this information..I hope everything goes well,and I hope to see you as a dentist,Katie!
Much Love,Kikoo..^.^