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I Just Turned 21, I’ve Never Had A Girlfriend, I’ve Never Hooked Up, Or Even Kissed A Girl, What Do I Do?


First of all I am 6’1″ I am very athletic 210lbs(muscular), and I’ve been told that I am attractive.
I thought it would get better as I got into college as I got out of my shell near the end of high school. The only thing that has happened is that I have gone on a couple of dates every year and nothing comes of it.
It seems so easy for some of my friends. Friends who don’t even try. I have one friend who is afraid to talk to girls, and this one really hot girl basically just picks him up and now they’re dating. I don’t get it.
Now I will say this and it’s going to sound like a role reversal between men and women. There have been a few times when girls have come after me for nothing but sex. Again sounds weird. I am not against that in a relationship, but it was a case of hit it and quit it. I know that coming from a guy that sounds weird, but that’s what was going on. That has happened to me 5 times. some of them have been reasonably attractive, but some weren’t.
I am an architecture major, and I was told that the workload would decrease in my later years as the weeding out process would stop. Unfortunately I got a really hard studio, and I have had to stop doing any of the social group or club stuff I was affiliated with. I can barely make it through my school stuff let alone worrying about any kid of social life. But it is really starting to get to me. I have talked about it with people, and they just keep telling me be yourself, and it’ll come when it’s time. I am not a passive person I don’t believe in getting results by sitting back. I don’t want to be uptight because I worry about it but I do. there may be some truth to what they’re saying, but it can only make me feel better after so many times saying it.
I try to smile and say hi or introduce myself(at appropriate times) to girls I pass by or meet. I am surprised though at how many people stare at the ground while walking around campus.
I am also afraid that I will get to a point where if a girl finds out how inexperienced I am, I will just look like a freak.
It also doesn’t help that I have had friends who ask for relationship advice and what I tell them works so therefore they keep coming back as it keeps working and it’s torture. It’s like some higher power is playing a sick joke on me.

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