so my best friend of almost 7 years (since 14 almost 21) judas got me pregnant, we were planning this and i was on the pill and we used a condom…i will not abort or opt for adoption. one of judes (mybest friend and father of baby) ex girlfriends had an abortion and it really hurt his schooling. he moved 10hors away to go to school for history and anthropology.and i am currently in my junior yr studying marketing and managment. we fell in love at 18 but didnt want to risk our friendship since then we have dated on and off and i am transfering schools to continue studying and attend a baking and pastry program. over his recent visit (almost a month and left 2weeks and a half ago) we had protected sex often. . . but it failed and here i am a little over 5 weeks pregnant (i found out after going to the doctor for other reasons). he has a good job but i have been a dancer for years, music videos concerts etc. that will no longer be an option for me with a belly :/ but i dont know how to go about telling him, i know he will not be exactly thrilled. he is moving back home by the end of this week so last night i tried to tell him i needed to talk to him, and he kinda just blew it off until i told him i got a gig dancing in a relatively well known music artists video but dont think i will be able to do it bc they wouldnt want me and told him it was all part of what we needed to talk about… i might be driving to get him and he will be staying with e until he finds an apartment.
any advice on when or how to tell him? im so confused and kinda scared ;/ i know he will be there for me … after the shock… i still plan on going to school and i will make sure he does too, and if he does run i will still be the best mother i can be… i just dont know how to go about this one?
sorry it is long, but thanks!
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I Have A Secret… Im Pregnant?
Posted on January 15, 2011.
It is hard, I know from experiance how hard it truly is. Only thing you can do is tell him be honest with him. he will be shocked at first and will need time to process his own thoughts. Face to face is better because this is serious news. I hope that he doesn’t run, because it is hard, Mine ran and raising a baby who is 8 months now, is hard. there is so much more that you think when that happens. Either way if he stays or goes, you have to tell him. Good luck. And its good that you plan to cont. with school..
abort and beg the lords forgiveness
Just tell him over the phone x x
Honestly….there is no easy way but the right way. Just tell him. Don’t stew over it on how your going to tell him and wait until you guys are able to be alone and discuss it once you do blurt it out. But don’t over think this just do it. You may be stressed over something that may not happen. You don’t know for sure what he thinks or how he feels until he knows. Give him the benefit of the doubt and help yourself be relieved of this stress. Its not good for the baby. Good Luck!!
All you can do is tell him. Just try and tell him when you are both calm and don’t have any other distractions around you. He will react how he reacts and hopefully it will be for good. Good luck!
Edit:
Please do not follow the advice of telling him on the phone. This is something you need to tell him in person. Its a personal matter and the phone will make it seem like its not a big deal to you which will scare him off more.
I would probably tell him on the phone or on the way to your place when you pick him up.
The best way to do it is honestly to just come out and say it.