I have been struggling for over 25 years to take care of the family my kids father stated he didnt want. I am a firm dicipliner, responsible and hardworking mother. I usually bounce back from things, but im 40 now and am feeling tired, frustrated and overwelmed. i am sensitive. my family only support my ideas when they think i have money. no one comes to see me. even tho i denied it, alot of people are jealous of me. i went from being on the streets due to verbal and physical abuse from my dad and my kids father to the shelter, to the hood and now to a beautiful lakefront home. i tried to show my kids that i care and never left them. now they have left me and hold grudges against me for spanking them when needed as a last alternative. i have lost my hair a couple of times, gone to the hospital from being short winded and have colasped from stress. two of my kids watched in joy to see me having a nervous breakdown. then they turn around and want to be nice to me until i disagree with them about something. i dont know my niche. i have kept a nice place for me and my family and have taught my kids how to work and earn money, clean, wash, iron, lots of things. does God hear me? i need a financial blessing so that i dont have to worry about how im going to survive when my youngest is gone. i spend alot of time with my kids and family. yet they show me that they dont need me around. they say they enjoy life without me. they make me feel worthless and hate myself. therefore, it attracts people who in turn hate me too. i need a new perception on life. tired of being rejected and hurt then the same ones call me when they want a favor. i dont know what love is. that song called how to love by lil wayne is so me right now. i want to enjoy my life while i still have my health and strength. and still want to be with my family even tho they dont want me. tired of working for people who fire me at the drop of a dime. i feel fatigue and depressed. my dad said not to feel sorry for myself. i am trying to understand what that means and if i am doing that so that i can hurry up and change. i was beaten up by a guy and went to my dad and all he did was talked about his problems and didnt even look at me to see that myy face was swollen and blood over me. im afraid to be intimate anymore because the experiences have been ugly. after my son grows up and leaves, i dont know what is next for me. i need a life and to be around people that enjoy seeing me happy. even that would scare me, but i would like to know what that feels like. did i let the ugliness inside me cause me to fail/struggle?
Sounds like you never got out of the victim role – Great that you want to change – I frmly recommend you seeing a counsellor as this is the sort of work you cannot really do on your own – Also you need to see that your children really do feel like your victim – I have two children who are in their forties now but we did need a clearing up session about how I brought them up – (Its payback time for them when their children do the same thing) But as the adult we do have to look at our mistakes openly and be sorry for whatever was inappropriate & stopped them growing – But that can come later after you have yourself in some good shape.
Absolutely true how do you learn how to love when you never had any yourself – I healed a lot though counselling and it gave me a way to carry on for myself being more aware and understanding relationships.
I’d stop seeing your useless dad whilst you’re doing the work as he sounds like someone very negative – Also try not pursuing your children and be out when they want a favour just because they treat you like a doormat doesn’t mean you have to be one. Please get some help this is the sort of time we tend to go a bit crazy so finding out how to love without being a victim is key.
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