I feel lately that I don’t have much control over my life, that I’m somewhat helpless to change things and that I’m not really worth people’s time or attention. It doesn’t help that most of my friends have moved on after graduation and are either getting married and having kids or leaving state. I just got my first post-grad job and I start a week from Monday, but I’m just a little bummed out lately that I’m kind of standing still and am a little lonely. I also feel that I haven’t been living as much as I would like. Meaning in high school I didn’t get involved (mostly due to me having moved here right before freshman year and my mom being really controlling of where/when/what I did) and in college I didn’t really find a niche either (and I wish I had transferred after freshman year since the rest of the experience wasn’t worth the money I spent that I could have gotten elsewhere). What do I do?
First you have tor realize that noone can really control their life. Its all the luck of the draw and its good that you broadened that that draw since you went to college and such. You could try finding people with similar interests and maybe join a local club that has your interests. Try meeting new people through that club maybe even a girlfriend and you should feel less lonely.